“As much as we thirst for approval we dread condemnation” Hans Selye, founder of stress theory
You have an improvement in mind. Or a new creation. It may be a minor improvement; it may be revolutionary. You are excited to share your idea with others. . . but. . . what if they do not believe in it? What if they are certain the status quo is better? What if? What if? What if?
The Selye quote points out a dilemma many face before proposing an improvement or change. It is scary. You believe in your idea, but others may not share your enthusiasm. Worse yet, they may flat out disapprove of the idea.
If the dread of condemnation creeps up your spine, realize many experience this tension when preparing to challenge widely accepted beliefs or practices. The sacred Cows. And in healthcare, we have a LOT of sacred cows.
Recognize others will not always share your viewpoint. Some will not be interested in even hearing it through, giving it consideration. Just as you dread condemnation, they may fear your idea will cause change—something they dread. Going with the status quo is the easy route. Change is uncomfortable and messy.
Your self-worth should not be determined by others' responses to a thoughtfully developed idea. When starting out, share ideas with people who you believe are reasonable. Not regular naysayers. Explain it thoughtfully. Listen for valid points; listen for dread; do not give up if it is something in which you believe. Don't hide your light under a basket. As the following quote says, many who have made significant changes were thought of as nuts....until they weren't.
“History shows us that the people who end up changing the world – the great political, social, scientific, technological, artistic, and even sports revolutionaries- are always nuts, until they are right.” John Eliot, a modern sports psychologist